you hear quite often the phrase "i live my life with no regrets."
that's awesome! i'm really pleased with people who can face all the little 'curveballs' life throws at them with grace and aplomb.
but may i suggest another philosophy?
accepting your mistakes, and realizing them as such, and doing what you can to change them. i'm not saying to let them engulf you, but perhaps do more than pretend they never happened.
the same with weaknesses... don't just say 'this is how i am, how dare you try to change me??' constructive criticism shouldn't make you angry and defensive, you should take it at face value. if it's coming from someone who's opinion you don't value, or you have assessed their point and decided it isn't worth making the changes, don't throw it in their face. accept that they are concerned enough to try to help you, and then move on.
i have awful handwriting. it's terrible... i can't even read it half the time. does that mean i wallow in that and say 'this is how i am, i'll never be any better.'
no, it means i write notes and copy lyrics and write in a journal non stop, and try to make it better. it also means i rev up my typing skills, so my weakness won't matter so much.
why should anything else in life be different?
2 comments:
I don't feel as though there's anything wrong with either way of viewing life. But why not mix the two. Learn from the mistakes you've made, move on, and don't regret that you made the mistake. Take it as an experience that you wouldn't have been the same without. Without mistakes...well, we're just dreary old souls. I love the way your mind works and would love to discuss this more with you.
I love it--that's what I think too. You screw up, you learn, you try harder, you get better, you get stronger. You don't let yourself off the hook by saying "I couldn't help it" or "that's just the way I am." You can always be better today than you were yesterday! Good on you for learning that at a young age!
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